The Action You Can Take To Discover if Your Husband or Wife is Cheating On You

Do you have a gut feeling that something’s very wrong in your relationship? That maybe, just maybe, your partner’s is cheating? If you do, then you have a choice to make and several options to choose from.

First, consider about how sure you are of their unfaithfulness. If you aren’t sure at all, then option 1 – confronting them right now, without wasting any time – is entirely out of the question. Doing so could destroy the relationship because it would tell your partner that you don’t trust them (regardless if they are cheating or not!).

The second option: overlook your suspicions, assume that they are “crazy”, that you are just imagining things and that they always will be, that nothing’s going on, and continue as usual. This option is the one many people take, either to evade being confronted with a horrible truth – that their lover’s doing some more ‘loving’ behind their backs – or because they dread they’re being unfair to their partners by being doubtful of them and suspicious of their devotedness.

Third option: do something to help eliminate your uncertainties – find out either way what’s going on, if your partner’s cheating on you or if they’re being faithful.

Okay, let’s imagine option three is the one for you. You want to find out the truth and don’t want to just ignore your gut instinct and continue on as usual. What methods of examination, ways of discovering the facts, are there at that you can use easily?

1. The easiest way (often considered the initial step), and something you might have already begun doing, is looking for clear signs of possible betrayal. Your partner smell of a particular scene, fragrance, perfume or after-shave you don’t know to be theres. They’ve been leaving the house for work half an hour earlier than they usually do, for no clear reason. They don’t seem to take pleasure in sex with you as they used to, or choose to evade it completely whenever they can. Keep an eye out for these exterior signs of possible infidelity – in a way, looking for them and ‘jotting’ them down in your mind or on paper can be considered safe, it’s free information there to be noticed…if only you’ll look.

2. After the clear possible signs of cheating dry up, or when you sense you’re at a dead end searching for and analyzing them, more up-front, determined action may be called for. Some people, at this point, reach directly for the Yellow Pages, thumbing right to the private investigator section. That’s one choice, sure, but there are things you can do yourself before calling in a third party. First, you could try setting up a ‘trap’. It may sound a little primitive (or even childish), like catching a wild animal, but actually it’s more like an experiment. These tests can take many different forms. For instance, organize a “trip,” say you’re going away for a couple days to visit your folks, or friends, and use that time to keep track of some of the things your spouse/partner does. You don’t essentially need to sit outside in the car with a pair of binoculars 24/7, just pay notice to key times when your partner would – if you were home – do certain things, like leave the house for work, come home, etc. You’d be amazed how many cheaters embrace these rare, private opportunities to ad too their affairs and indulge in some extra-marital ‘relations’.

There are also subtler ways of checking your partner’s fidelity and faithfulness. One of them is what I call the ‘gossip’ test. It involves bringing up the subject of cheating using an imaginary third party, such as one of your labor colleagues or friends. Talk about, without hinting at your doubt of them in the slightest, that your friend (or whoever you’ve selected to use for this test) confided in you that they’re cheating on their partner. Most people are, to some level or another – even if it’s just to continue conversation – interested in a little gossip, particularly if it involves a topic as juicy as infidelity. But when cheaters hear the topic of cheating brought up, they tend to panic – a flash of nerves sweeps their consciousness. Have they been rumbled? Is this a test? Am I reacting like a non-cheater will to this kind of question? Keep a close watch on how YOUR partner reacts…it could offer a telling insight into their present state of mind, how they feel about cheating, and whether or not – when you get right down to it– you can trust them to not cheat on you.

For more ways to catch a cheating spouse, check out Beating Cheating